Teri Talks Blog

Visit Teri's new blog at TeriTalks.com, where Teri will continue to answer all your questions, talk about ways to improve your sex life and even brig up some real-life stories into the mix.

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Some exerpts from TeriTalks.com:

What's Your OQ (Orgasm Quotient)?

"Finally…I get to talk about one of my absolute favorite subjects: the female orgasm. It's just one more area, ladies, where we outshine the male of the species. Naturally, most men are close to clueless about the subject; unfortunately, far too many women are also less-than-fully informed as to the pleasure their own bodies can provide."

"For example, how many of you know that women can achieve both a clitoral (external) and vaginal (internal, which involves stimulating the fabled "G" spot) orgasm, either separately or together? Or that, unlike our brothers, many women can achieve multiple orgasms…I've heard that some men can also, but I've yet to meet one. Either one is highly pleasurable (duh!), however, for most women, the clitoral orgasm is easier to achieve and more intense."

"Now, since I've read that as many as 25% of women (some say even more) don't frequently - or have never - experienced orgasm, I urge these women to explore their own sexuality, as well as ask their therapist or gynecologist for guidance. Also, I recommend any woman seeking greatly sexual pleasure in her life seek one of the many quality books on the subject of female sexuality. Very often, the inability of a woman to reach orgasm is emotional or psychological, not physical, so there's no reason to deny yourself all the pleasure your body can bring when help is easy to come by ( no pun intended). Female sexuality is strong, beautiful, and freakin' incredible…don't go through life without it."

Lubricants vs. Stimulants: No Contest!

"The other night I was out with some girlfriends, and after a couple of stiff ones (drinks, that is), the subject of personal lubrication came up (no pun intended). It was amazing to me how many of them didn't know the difference between an ordinary lubricant and one that's a sexual stimulant. Duh…it's only about the same as night and day!"

"Virtually anything wet and/or viscous can be a lubricant: cooking oil, Crisco (for those of you mature enough to remember it), peanut butter (non-chunky, of course), jam, cod liver oil, even axle grease. But I don't think many people would want to smear any of these (well, maybe peanut butter and jam) all over their bodies…or in them! Even the most desirable of plain lubricants (chocolate and whipped cream come to mind) don't provide the physiological excitement derived from a good sexual stimulant."

"The dictionary defines a stimulant as something that causes physical activity in something, such as a nerve or bodily organ (got any particular one in mind at the moment?). Such a substance creates tactile sensations on the skin that send electrical impulses to the brain, and chemical changes that generate arousal within our individual pleasure centers. In other words, stimulants trigger both electrical and chemical reactions that, by themselves, make us feel good. Excited. Sexual. Stimulated! No way engine grease or velvetta is going to do all that."

"It's this huge difference that led me to LovRub, as opposed to traditional, ordinary sexual lubricants like K-Y. LovRub is all-natural - without potentially harmful ingredients like methyl salicilate, which is found in several lubricant products today - and almost instantly gives you a warm, sexy feeling all over. Now let me tell you…I' ve rubbed plenty of chocolate and oils over my body in my time, but nothing ever gave me the sensations and stimulation from a little dab of LovRub where it counts. When it's a choice between a sexual stimulant and a lubricant, there's really no need to choose… LovRub let's you enjoy it all. I mean, really enjoy it!"

Lip Service As It Was Meant To Be

"One of the things I love most about gay men is their willingness to be sexually adventurous. My friend of 20 years has been in a steady, happy relationship since the millennium, but recently told me his sex life could use some new stimulation. So I immediately whipped out my stick…of LipLov. 'Chapstick?' he asked…'that's your secret for a better sex life?' Aahhh…not mere Chapstick, I assured him. For while it looks like an ordinary balm stick, and is applied the same way, the results are anything but."

"It's quite possible LipLov is the ultimate oral pleasure enhancer…and since it's hard (no pun intended) to improve something as perfectly pleasurable as oral sex, you know this stuff is really good. I ran into him a couple of weeks later, and try as he might, he couldn't stop smiling as we talked. He told me how much he and Greg (his partner) enjoyed LipLov, and that it's added the missing spark to their lovemaking. As he puts it, it never fails to get a rise out of both of them. I quickly reminded him that it causes wonderful sensations wherever the lip-bearer puts them on his partner's body…but he told me neither of them could wait for the other to 'get down' to business to find that out. Oh well…maybe in a few months."